Living Funerals

Dying is no longer a prerequisite to celebrate your life.

Death is not as much of a taboo subject as it once was and more people are willing to talk about it. Moving away from tradition is becoming more popular as people attend their own living funeral. Living funerals are often helpful for those people nearing the end of their life; maybe you have a terminal illness or in the early stages of dementia. They are a way of celebrating your life whilst you are still here and well enough to do so. How often is it said after a funeral ceremony – ‘I wish they had been here to see how many people turned up? Or ‘If only they would have heard what everybody had to say about them’.

Perhaps there’s a lovely restaurant that does afternoon tea, or a village hall decked out for the occasion or maybe a pie and pint at a much loved pub. You can choose to speak and have others relay stories of times gone by. Maybe you have a lovely poem or reading you would like someone to read out or play your favourite music. It can be a large celebration with all your family and friends or something much more intimate.

Carlisle Celebrant for Living Funerals

I will help you write, offer practical support and advice so your celebration goes without a hitch. It will be unique, highly personalised and celebratory in tone. We will focus on your life story (you might like to theme it like the old programme ‘This is Your Life!’), your greatest achievements, your hobbies, things you have loved in life.

There are no rules you can have exactly what you want – you are in control.
I consider it a great privilege and am hugely honoured to lead your celebration and I do my absolute best to accommodate your wishes.


You get in contact with me via email, message, phone call, facebook, Instagram, or in person and we have initial chat about your requirements and wishes. You can give me a date and I will see if it is available. If it is then lets meet up! We get to know each other and you can decide if you would like me to be your celebrant.
Once you have decided I am the one for you I ask that you pay me a deposit. All the fees and deposits can be found below. This deposit secures your date.
We meet up in person or over Zoom, Skype, FaceTime and we get to know each other even more. This can take between 1-2 hours but there is no limit. At this meeting I want to get to know all about you and your life story. This helps me make your ceremony totally unique and personal. We can talk about where you were born, siblings and family members you grew up with, your time at school and any childhood stories, all your family members and friends, your careers and places of work, do you belong to any groups or societies. I will talk to you and your loved ones about your personality, your character, hobbies and achievements, your favourite memories, any significant events, how will you like to be remembered and do you have any personal requests about your funeral? We also talk about what ideas you have for your ceremony – will anybody else be speaking? Choices can be made from my wide selection of poetry and readings. Any additional pieces that hold special meaning or significance for you can be included. I will help you decide how they could be arranged and presented. You may want a family member or close friend to do a reading or make a speech.
I go away and compose a draft script for your ceremony using all the information I have gained from us meeting.
It is important for me to say there are no restrictions on how many times we re-write the draft ceremony. It has to be absolutely perfect. If there is anything you don’t like, just let me know I really don’t mind.
When I have the final draft I will add in any readings, poems or speeches so everything is well timed
When the day of the celebration arrives, I will be at the venue an hour or so before the ceremony. I will let you know the exact time before hand. I will find you and go through the running order just to put your mind at rest. I will also try and find the other people that may be involved with your ceremony such as those doing a reading and poem just so they know when they will be introduced. Everything will be set up and ready to go in good time.
After the ceremony when there’s a chance to have 2 minutes with you, I will present you with a beautiful presentation box with a copy of your ceremony script.

FEES £350


For ceremonies within a 25-mile radius of CA2.

Additional mileage of 45p a mile is charged for ceremonies further afield.