Funerals and Celebrations of Life

There may be moments you are unable to find the words – I will help, guide and support you.

If you are reading this because someone you love has died; I am so sorry for your loss. Losing someone we love is one of the most painful and traumatic experiences we will ever go through even when their death is expected. When a death is unexpected it is as if time stands still, you may feel completely overwhelmed and at a loss as grief washes over you. A little bit of us dies too as they take a piece of our hearts with them.

Funerals have changed in recent times and have become much more personalised. A funeral is always going to be sad as you are saying your last goodbyes. It does not need to be a sombre ceremony however, my ceremonies can be written in a way that is uplifting and as positive as possible, with the focus very much on a life lived than death. You may want a traditional service, or you may want to go against convention as I aim to create a very personal, memorable and unique ceremony that talks of your loved one's life story in a celebratory, genuine, respectful and heartfelt way. We can celebrate the good times, the fun times you shared, their personality and unique likes and dislikes and all the other things that made your loved one, who they were. A funeral is the one last thing you can do for your loved one let’s get it just right.

Carlisle Funeral Celebrant
Funeral Celebrant in Carlisle, Cumbria

I believe that a good funeral should be profound and transformational in processing the loss of someone you love dearly. I focus on the most important and memorable aspects of your loved one’s life and their relationship with family and friends. The ceremony is a reflection of your individual memories. I will work closely alongside you to understand your wishes and those of your loved one. I will support you every step of the way and create a truly fitting tribute in an atmosphere of love and support. I will do my very best to create a safe environment for you to grieve and ensure that the ceremony gives you ease and comfort at this particularly difficult time.

I work closely with your funeral director to ensure everything runs smoothly. You are in control – there are no rules about what can and should be said. You are free to choose readings and poems, music if you would like to. You may choose to have hymns and prayers or keep the ceremony completely non-religious. It is totally up to you and I will be there to help you.

Family and friends can also be involved in the delivery of the service if they feel able. I will stand beside them if they find it too much on the day.
My one hope for the day is that you look back at the ceremony and feel that you honoured your loved one with the most deeply personal, heartfelt farewell you could.

WHAT HAPPENS NEXT

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You get in contact with me via email, message, phone call, facebook, Instagram, or in person and we have initial chat about your requirements and wishes. You can give me a date and I will see if it is available. If it is then let’s meet up. We get to know each other, and you can decide if you would like me to be your celebrant. It might be that your funeral director has put me in touch with you.
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Once you have decided I am the one for you I ask that you pay me a deposit of £90. The fee can be found below. If you have gone through a funeral director and found me the fee will be taken when you pay their bill.
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We meet up in person or over Zoom, Skype, FaceTime and we get to know each other even more. This can take between 1-2 hours but there is no limit. At this meeting I want to get to know all about your loved one and their life story. This helps me make your ceremony totally unique and personal. We can talk about where they were born, siblings and family members they grew up with, their time at school and any childhood stories, all their family members and friends, their careers and places of work, did they belong to any groups or societies, their personality, their character, hobbies and achievements, your favourite memories of them, any significant events, how will they be remembered and did they have any personal requests about their funeral? We also talk about what ideas you have for your ceremony – will anybody else be speaking? Choices can be made from my wide selection of poetry and readings. Any additional pieces that hold special meaning or significance for your loved one can be included. I will help you decide how they could be arranged and presented. You may want a family member or close friend to do a reading or make a speech.
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I go away and compose a draft script for your ceremony using all the information I have gained from us meeting.
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It is important for me to say there are no restrictions on how many times we re-write the draft ceremony. It has to be absolutely perfect. If there is anything you don’t like, just let me know I really don’t mind.
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When I have the final draft I will add in any readings, poems or speeches so everything is well timed. We are somewhat limited with time as they are often very strict about time keeping.
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After the service when there’s a chance to have 2 minutes with you I will present you with a presentation box with a copy of the service script.

FEE £190

DEPOSIT £90

I do not charge for baby or child funerals

For ceremonies within a 25-mile radius of CA2.

Additional mileage of 45p a mile is charged for ceremonies further afield.